by Leigh
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Jack and his great grandfather |
I feel compelled
to tell you a story although the story does not have so much to do with
photography.
Actually it's about memories and being open to things that God has to tell me. I really don't
even know where to start as I type this late at night. I'm afraid that if I don't get the words down
now that the emotion behind them won't feel as true. I rarely remember
my dreams. Occasionally there will be
one that is just so random, so funny, so strange that it sticks in my brain but
for the most part I wake up with a blank slate each morning. But one morning last week was quite
different. At 3:43am to be exact I woke
up not so much in a panic as in shock. I
remember opening my eyes and my very first thought was that what had just
happened was not an ordinary dream. In
fact, I don't feel as though it was a dream at all. I knew for sure that this was something I
would not forget and decided instead of waking my husband to tell him of this
experience that I would rather quickly close my eyes to try and get to that
place again. Which unfortunately did not
happen....I did not get to that place again and I did not remember in the
morning.
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My grandparents-Mom and Dad |
Fast forward to a few
days. Often times after I pick up the
kids from school we take a short cut home through the cemetery. To some this may seem morbid, but for us it
is normal. There is a sense of calm and
peace as we drive through. This
particular afternoon my six year old daughter informs her five year old cousin
that Mom and Dad are buried here. Mom
and Dad were my grandparents. My son was
four when Dad died with Mom following behind him a year later. My daughter was four months old when dad died
and my niece was born the next year a couple months before Mom died. Molly says quietly that she wished Mom and Dad
were still around. And as I listened to
the kids talk about my grandparents a sudden spark of electricity shot through
me as I remembered my "experience".
I began to tell the kids that a few nights before when I was asleep I
had this dream that I was in a car in this very cemetery and a movie was being
projected onto the windshield of my car. It was a movie of my
grandfather. He was younger and dressed in a suit with a hat. As I watched the film I felt someone grasp my
hand and as I turned to see the person sitting in the passenger seat next to me
I was stunned to see my grandfather.
Everything was so real. I felt
him holding my hand. I smelled his
cologne. There was a very strong sense
of familiarity. He did not say a word as
words began to pour out of my mouth telling him all about Jack and how proud he
would be of him and as I began to tell him about Molly I woke up. |
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What happened next
brought chills to my body. From the back
seat Jack, my 10 year old, said "I saw Dad a few nights ago too." "Why didn't you tell me about it?" I asked. "I couldn't figure out if it was a dream or an encounter
(his words, not mine) so I didn't say anything. And actually I kind of forgot
about it until just now." He said
it was similar to the experience he had before that involved Dad. I should take this time to mention that Jack
has an amazing memory for detail. A week
after my grandfather died in 2006, Jack (who was then a 4 year old) came into
the living room one morning and in a matter of fact voice said "I saw Dad
in my room last night." My husband and I were both taken aback but tried
to hide our surprise as we asked Jack to tell us what happened. He told us that dad was sitting on the floor
looking at him. He described in detail
what Dad was wearing and mentioned that Dad did not have his glasses on
because he didn't need them anymore in heaven. (remember this is coming from a
4 year old!) When asked if Dad spoke to him he said "nope, he was just
checking on me and then flew away into my boat picture on my wall." (which
coincidentally Dad had given to him).
Fast forward to this week, Jack said that Dad showed up very much like
he did that night 6 years ago. Except
this time they had a conversation and Dad told Jack how proud he was of him.
Have goosebumps
yet?
When we arrived
home from school I began to tell my husband of everything that just
happened...the drive through the cemetery, my instant recollection of my
experience and then Jack's account of his story. As I tell the story I can see the color
draining from Shawn's face and he keeps saying "you think that is freaky
just wait till..." but I kept shushing him because I had to get all these
words out and in my head I knew what he was going to say. He also had a dream a
couple nights before involving Dad!
In his dream they were having a conversation and when Shawn awoke he had the same feeling
that I had. A feeling that it was more
than just a dream yet in the morning he had forgotten all about it until I came home and
began to tell him this story.
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Yep, that's me! |
I don't know how
to explain this other than to say I truly believe that Dad visited the three of
us this week. Why now? I don't know.
But that dream, that vision, that encounter as Jack calls it, has left
me feeling stronger in my faith and more connected to my family. I am thankful that Dad still lives in me
today and always will. I can feel him
around me and it gives me peace to know that Shawn and Jack can feel him
too. His spirit is very much alive in
us.
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A letter sent to Jack from Dad when he was little. |
As I type this
tears are rolling down my cheeks not of sadness but tears of gratefulness for
this connection and this reminder of one of the most special people in my
life. And as I shut down the computer
now and close my eyes I hope that one night soon I will see him again.
14 comments:
What an amazing and awesome story this is! How lucky you are to have had this experience, and it is one which would really help you to see that you are still surrounded with "a cloud of witnesses". Awesome! Thank you for sharing this!
Leigh - Thank you for sharing such a personal experience - and yet one that is so universal! I am a big believer. In fact, when I wrote the post this week on my grandmother going to art school, I felt a little of the same thing. I had started writing about my father's cameras, but started thinking about the artful influences in his life - began to think about my grandmother and suddenly it was all about art school and women - which were her causes. I kept looking at her picture - and I really believe she was directing my thoughts. There is so much we don't know and I think art helps us sustain the ability to be intuitive, and to look deeper. I'm so happy that this happened to you, and whether or not you see them again, you know now that they are there.
Leigh...thank you so much for sharing such a personal experience. As I was reading it, the tears began to well up as I began to 'feel' the emotions of you and your family. You gave something to me today...and that something is 'hope'. My Dad died suddenly, 14 years ago...and oh how I wish to just even get 5 minutes with him again. As the time goes by...I often question, and ponder...is he really gone...is there a God...why does it still hurt so much? Well...this morning...you put 'hope' back into my life by opening up and writing this post. So thank you Leigh...thank you so much. Your photos, your writing, your honesty are cherished.
~ susan
Wonderful story about some true blessings for your family. I know these experiences are real. They have happened to me and to my children. We all call each other when they do and share, as it lets us know that we all remain connected and that death is no barrier. I view each as the gift that it is, and I am happy for you and your family that you have received and recognized it as that, also.
A powerful story, Leigh! Thank you for sharing. I can't say I've had a similar experience but I do believe strongly that as long as we keep people we love in our hearts, they're always with us, still alive to us in some way. Memories are powerful things. And ... our blog is about life ... so this is a perfect story to share.
I'm so glad you shared that. It helps to know others have dreams that speak. And that your children are part of it. What a blessing.
Leigh- Thank you for sharing this beautiful story of love and connection in your family. xo, Barbara
Thank you so much Leigh for sharing your experience. I have no doubt that your grandfather did indeed visit you and your family. I had a similar thing happen to me the day after my father past away. I believe these experiences are a gift and a reminder...where there is an open heart, those we love are never far away.
thank you for sharing such a beautiful, heartfelt post leigh. i've had freinds share similiar experiences with me and i just have no doubt that your dad was there with you in spirit. so glad that your experience gave you peace and comfort. love is so awesome that way. love, kelly
Oh, Leigh, this is such an amazing post! What a blessing that you have been able to keep your parents with you even after they are gone. I lost my sister to breast cancer in 2005 and there are so many times that I feel her with me and it is such a comfort. Too many stories to tell but I'm so happy you shared yours here.
Thank you, sweet Leigh. Thank you.
I am so glad that I know you and have the privilege of you sharing your life as well as your dreams with us. What you and your family encountered with your dreams was a true blessing, showing us that those who loved us and were such a part of us are still with us. Sweet dreams, my sweet Leigh.
Sorry I'm just getting a chance to comment here....I have quite a few stories...I'll have to share someday when we get a chance to meet, too many and too long for here. But I will say, that I do believe that your grandfather did visit you, not just that day, but is with you always, watching over you. Thank you for sharing this Leigh!!
Leigh, I just read this yesterday and how wonderful it is! sent chills down my spine. x
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