|Taken in August of 1999 when he was 14.|
My nest has been empty for quite a while so it’s not exactly “empty nest syndrome”. But two of my three sons have lived here in town and then last November my oldest who had been living in Dallas for a few years decided to move home so I had all my chicks in the same city once again. All was right with the world.
|Taken in October of 2008.|
It was hard when he left home to go to college and harder still when he went clear across the country for law school, but those things were temporary. I don’t think this is. They are both excited for the adventure. And I’m trying to figure out how I’m going to cope with them going. I know people’s kids move away all the time and life goes on. I’m sure it does. But I know it is going to be HARD.
So I decided to do some research on how other people handle this situation. Some suggestions I’ve read for coping are to:
1 1. Keep busy for the first few months (maybe it’s time to start Phase 2 of our home remodeling?). Just sitting around in an empty house is depressing and delays the healing process.
2 2. Join a support group or start a journal. List all the positive and benefits of the new situation (are there really any positives?)
3 3. Talk out your feelings to friends (that’s what I’m doing with all of you here).
4 4. Make plans to visit. (I’ve already scoped out the plane fares and hotels.)
|Taken in August, 2010|
There are two reasons that I’m writing this today. The first is that there is nothing else that can fit into my brain right now. This is taking up every square inch. The second is that, for me, writing and talking always brings me clarity. I’m hoping it will also lessen the feeling in the pit of my stomach. But I know it is just going to take time. Lots and lots of time.
We had a family going away party at our house last night and, of course, I wanted one more photo of the two of us together before he leaves.